No easy answers here. Just honest attempts, and your comments are genuinely wanted.
A coaching institute has an obvious stake in this question. Here's our honest attempt to answer it anyway — both sides, no verdict, your comments genuinely wanted.
The most useful finding in the responses wasn't a new complaint. It was how small and reasonable the unsaid things turned out to be.
Fear worked on a lot of us growing up. The research on why it stops working — and what replaces it — is more specific than most advice admits.